Most of us grow up with the fairy tale ‘and they all live happily ever after’ dream. We expect to marry the prince or princess also known as Mr. Right and Miss Right so that everything will be alright. Sadly statistics tell a different story. In Australia 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce. The rate is higher for second marriages and co-habiting relationships breakdown at a rate four to seven times higher than marriages1. Many relationships don’t end with happily ever after, they just end! Recovering at the end of relationship is a journey.
In the beginning the focus is dealing with the changes the breakup brings like moving house, property and financial settlement, perhaps becoming a single parent, establishing a new social network, and the list of losses goes on. Some of the losses are intangible like the loss of the ‘happily ever after dream’.
Change and loss are unavoidable at the end of a relationship and result in grief. It is helpful to understand the process of grief and the impact on your health, so you can start to deal with the many and usually negative emotions assailing you.
Click on the links below for more information and suggestions on working through the following:
For those who are Christians, you are encouraged in the Bible to take your distress to God. There are numerous examples of people crying out to God in their distress (often telling Him what they think of Him), especially in the book of Psalms. The eBook ‘7 Days of God’s love – encouragement for those who have experienced the end of a relationship’ has examples of this.
- For Kid’s sake: Repairing the Social Environment for Australian Children and Young People, Professor Patrick Parkinson AM, University of Sidney, July 2011 http://sydney.edu.au/law/news/docs_pdfs_images/2011/Sep/FKS-ResearchReport.pdf