You need to prepare yourself to love again. It takes time to heal and recover from the end of a relationship – sometimes years – and the willingness to work at it. If you don’t spend this time, you might find yourself experiencing the same problems that ended your previous relationship, or commenting to friends: ‘I married the same person.’
So how do you love again when the end of your relationships tore you to shreds and you’ve been battling to put yourself back together? Here’s 5 steps to be ready to love again.
- Heal from the wounds of your past
- Practice Forgiveness
- Know who you are
- Uncover any problems in how you relate (see additional blogs below)
- Work through what you want from a relationship (this may seem clinical as you end with a list, but women have expressed that it has helped them to not jump into ultimately unhealthy relationships or settle, instead hold to a character standard of what is important to them – see additional blogs below)
The additional blogs that became the Loving Again series are:
- 7 ways to help you process forgiveness
- What to do when your stuck with trusting again
- What’s your patterns of relating? Here’s six possible drivers (includes video)
- Looking in the Mirror
- Waiting to date. Here’s how to create a dating checklist?
- Love me, love my dog. How to improve the chances of a lasting relationship
I cannot guarantee you will love again, but the process will help your healing.
My disclaimer: this is the topic I don’t have personal experience in to write from.
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