Healing comes as you work through the grief – burying it with work, parties, fitness (not my style) or addiction including chocolate (that was me!) is not helpful long term. Unresolved grief will have negative consequences for you and your health. Healing also involves practicing forgiveness and rebuilding self-esteem. As you heal and move on free from the past you start to build a new life, exploring your life purpose, dreams and planning how to get there. You move forward into your new life.
To heal and move on at the end of a relationship you need to find some strategies to help you cope with and process your grief, practice forgiveness, improve your health and rebuild your self-esteem.
You cannot take this journey alone. You will need the support of safe people. Safe people love you unconditionally, no matter what you do or what you tell them. Whilst they will show you grace in this love, they are also not afraid to speak the truth. Their support both encourages and comforts you whilst holding you accountable. Your safe people may include family, friends or even a professional counsellor.
For those who are Christians you are encouraged in the Bible to take your distress to God. There are numerous examples of people crying out to God in their distress (often telling Him what they think of Him), especially in the book of Psalms. The eBook ‘7 Days of God’s love – encouragement for those who have experienced the end of a relationship’ has examples of this. Click on the button below to access it.